says, Sideline Syndrome: When a person is so infatuated with being an option, they eliminate any potential opportunity at an exclusive relationship with someone outside of an individual who is already taken. While watching Scandal, the phrase, Sideline Syndrome kept running through my mind. You watch Olivia Pope chase a love that isnt available to her. Does she know? Yes. Does she want to stop? Yes. Does she try to stop? Yes. Is there a cure? Not really. Many times we want to label those who date married or taken people as stupid, nasty or classless. I would beg to differ. In really, most of those people are infected with a disease. A disease that many of us rarely endure or even know about. Being a sideline isnt a position anyone aims to own. It is a job most fall into. They originally believed in love. The believed in hope. They believed in exclusivity. Like most beliefs, they can be corrupted with temptation. Temptation is best dealt when our decision making is compromised. Either youve dated too many deadbeats, youre older so being alone is a fearful idea therefore youre desperate for love or lastly you fell in love with someone who didnt tell you they were married or taken. When you finally found out, it was too late. You were already in love. Unable to run away from that feeling. Their lies didnt help but neither does your inability to leave. The Sideline Syndrome is inescapable once inside, for most. The reason? One word...hope. The hope that he or she will leave their wife/husband, fiance or boyfriend/girlfriend. Hope is a drug. A drug some preachers sell every Sunday. It keeps bringing more believers and keeps more money fluctuating inside that particular church. Much of the same is with this syndrome. As long as there is a hope he or she will be yours...many stay. The Im leaving soon,The divorce is almost finalized or If it wasnt for these children... are all familiar statements made to keep hope running steadily in veins. The only way to avoid this syndrome like avoiding STDs...prevention. Know their background. Learn who they are before you love them. Research their social media like you would if they cheated on you. Do your due diligence. If not, you will be upset with the rest of the SS positive people. In my book, Change Him...In 100 Pages, I speak about what happens when we forget research and dont aim to make our standards important. Hope you pick it up on ChangeAMan. Dont endure this syndrome. Get the condom for Sideline Syndrome. And thats real
Posted on: Tue, 15 Apr 2014 02:10:43 +0000
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